Quick Thinking: Defining Moments

I'm learning more and more that people's opinions of me are not based on who I actually am but, rather, who that person needs me to be relative to their own worldview.

Let me give an example. 

This weekend, a close friend's wife made a telling statement about why her husband isn't "allowed" to socialize with me very often. (Something about "getting drunk until 4 in the morning" was mentioned.) My response was as immediate as it was simple, "Sounds like displacement to me." 

I didn't try and educate her or "prove her wrong." It would be a fool's errand. The truth of the matter is I need to be the villain for her worldview to make sense. 

She needs me on that wall. She wants me on that wall.

For the record, I drink twice or so a month these days...maybe less. Sometimes months go by and I don't have one drink. Partly because my life schedule is dictated by my 6-year-old son but, even more importantly, because alcohol simply isn't a big part of my life anymore. 

Not by mandate or anything, but by choice. 

I find life more rewarding when I'm not throwing away money going out all the time or wasting time nursing headaches the next morning. 

But that reality doesn't work for my friend's wife. If she viewed me for who I really was today, as opposed to who I may have been in the past, she couldn't come up with an easy, blameless reason why her husband "can't go out tonight." The realities must remain mutually exclusive, of course, or her actions wouldn't be seen as a "wife making responsible decisions" but one who is a finding pleasure in controlling those around her. 

And that's certainly not something she could ever admit to anyone about herself.

Talk about irony.

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-- Quote of the Week goes to Connor McGregor for responding to Draymond Green's "we rocking with Floyd bro not you, take that off bruh" quip by saying, "I don't know or give a f*** about basketball. I bounce heads off the floor. Not a ball."

-- Win or lose, Connor is an A++ self-promoting trash talker.

-- Reminds me of Ali.

-- Or is it Will Smith?

-- Either way...

-- ...the champ is here!

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-- The best song you don't know about right now is Navajo by Masego.

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-- Speaking of Game of Thrones and being as good as it gets...did y'all catch Missandei in episode 2?! 

-- I found myself rewatching her scene with Greyworm over and over.

-- You know, because those tricky writers hide so many hints, easter eggs and foreshadowing in each scene. 

-- And I can say, with absolute certainty, that Winter isn't the only thing that came this season.

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